Life as a single mum can be hard. I love my girls to pieces but I have to say I do sometimes wonder what life would be like if I wasn’t a Mummy. It’s sometimes hard to remember life before kids as my eldest has recently turned 7, I do actually feel like I have been a Mum all my adult life, though I had her at 24! So let’s weigh up the positive’s and the negatives of life without kids!
On the positive side I would probably have more money, heck, I would definitely have more money. Not only would I have less to pay out on, food, clothes and all the other little extra’s, but I would probably be well on the career ladder by now and maybe even own my own home. On the negative side, what the hell would I spend my money on?
Let’s be fair here, you expect me to say I would be lost on what to spend my money on if I didn’t have kids. Well yes I do have to actually think about it but only because I am not used to having money to do what I want with. If I didn’t have kids then my money would be spent no doubt about it. I would have nice things in my house, which I can’t have with a 19 month old about. I would have matching furniture and probably all the gadgets I could want. I would also have a car, a luxury I don’t have at the moment. Not just a car, I would have my Volvo C30 Coupe, and I would drive it like it was built to drive, and not like a mum with two kids in the back!
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Money isn’t the be all and end all though and to be honest I still haven’t convinced myself that life without kids would be any better. I love my kids more than I want material possessions, so I’ll get down to the nitty-gritty here……..
Here’s my run down of 24 hours with no kids:
Get up, have a shower and get dressed into clothes that have been hanging in the wardrobe. No one asking where there are clean clothes, no one shouting at me while I have shampoo in my ears and most definitely no toys to trip over. Oh and going to the loo in peace!!
Go to work – simple. No school run, no nursery drop offs and no worrying that if I finish late or get invited out for a drink with colleagues that it will involve a military operation!
Come home from work. Cook tea without a child on my hip. Cook what I want to eat for tea and have a glass of wine with it.
Go out, when and where I want, keep fit, pub, salsa class the list is, I assume, endless.
So, life without kids is easier, less stressful and productive right? We must be mad to have kids then, what possesses us?
You can keep the nice house, the fancy car, the freedom to go out and about – it’s all assumptions any way. Just as the child free singles assume what my life is like as a single mum I can’t guarantee a child free life would be easier. And if it was easier then would that be as satisfying? I love my kids and would put my life on the line for them. I don’t think I have or would ever feel that for another human being. That bond means so much more than anything else. So I have to remember next time B argues with me over the silliest little thing, or the next time H won’t leave me alone to cook, the next time I am cleaning up after poorly children or the next time I just want 5 minutes peace, life with out kids would be such a bore! My girls are my world and I can’t wait for them to mature into beautiful young women who will be my best friends just like my mum is to me. And when I am old and senile I will get my revenge!!!!!
Life without kids works for some, but for me, I chose the only life I could ever have imagined!