Josie over at Sleep is for the Weak wrote a post today about what her child has taught her and how responding to his personality and needs has changed her. This post really made me think about how having Baba has changed my life.
When Baba was born, Mr L and I had a conversation about whether we loved each other differently, both of us said that we did love each other in a different way. It was a deeper love than the one we had before. But that was only the beginning of how Baba has changed me.
He has made me realise that my way is not always the right way, he has his own ways, even at 17 months old and whether I like them or not they work for him.
I am a control freak, but Baba has taught me that being a control freak is not always the best way to be. It is ok to get really messy, to put paint everywhere, to tread playdoh into the floor to knock the water over the paper. The world wont end, but Baba will laugh and that is the most important thing. Hearing him laugh makes me capable of coping with the mess, because then it is all ok.
I have never liked to make a fool out of myself I have always been the quiet reserved one that watches everyone else acting the fool. But yet again Baba has taught me that this is ok, it is fine to have the lounge curtains wide open with no net curtains and be dancing and spinning around to Robbie Williams at the loudest volume we can get. It is fine, we are having fun that is all that counts.
Baba has taught me to appreciate the little things in life, that as an adult you are too busy to see, but as a child it amazes you. It is so refreshing to see these things. Watching a bird fly over you at a park, noticing that the noise of your trainers on a drain is different to the noise your trainers make on the pavement, hours of fun. Watching the dog sleep, and laughing as his lips flutter up each time he breathes. Looking at the wind on a tree, and watching the leaves move first slowly and then fast. The look of amazement on Baba’s face makes it all worthwhile to watch. Listening to him saying “WOW” every time he is impressed makes the fact that you have rolled the ball for the fifteenth time in the last two minutes worthwhile.
I think the biggest change and the biggest lesson that Baba has given me, is that he has made me care about the important simple things, laughing, having fun, seeing nature and the beauty that is around you and not to care so much about the trivial things in life, looking a fool, being in control etc.
NB: I would like to thank Josie for the inspiration. If you would like to read Josie’s post please look here
And Then All I Thought About Was You 
Mar 16, 2010 @ 23:02:23
Oh this is beautiful!
It is all about the simple things isn’t it? It makes you reassess what is a priority. Making fun more important than tidiness, learning to let go and surrender to the moment. These are all such amazing gifts.
I’m so glad that you’ve found that with your Babba too. Doesn’t make the tough times go away, but it makes the bits in between so much more worthwhile.
The comment about the love you feel for your husband now really struck me too. It has changed hasn’t it? We really feel that. Maybe cause we’re different people now? We’re like you though, it feels deeper somehow.
So touched you wrote this and glad my post encouraged you to share some of you and your boy’s magic. It sounds like you have a very special relationship 🙂
Mar 16, 2010 @ 23:14:53
Thank you, very much.
I had to write something down as you do forget the little things that make parenting such a joy especially when you are having a bad time with the day to day stuff. Which I think a few of us mummy’s have been having recently. It makes them seem bearable, if you can remember the joyous times inbetween.
The love for Mr L has changed, I am not sure whether it is because we are different people or not? But it is deeper, there is something that connects you together that wasn’t there before. You will always have the fact that you are the parents of your babe maybe that is the thing that makes it different? I am not sure but there is a deeper love that is true.
I am glad your post encouraged me thank you, as it has made me realise what a special relationship Baba and I have, and the same for you and Kai you have a very special relationship, even if they are hard and pushed to the limit sometime.
I wonder whether we will be blogging the same kind of post when they are both hitting their twenties? Ha now that would be interesting? xxx
Mar 17, 2010 @ 07:50:33
I too love this post, I think that children change us as people in fudemental ways. I too used to need to be in control, but what is control when you have children!
Mar 17, 2010 @ 09:41:51
Thank you, it has taken me 17 months to realise that I don’t have to be in control and has been a hard lesson to learn. But you are correct what is control when you have children?
Mar 17, 2010 @ 21:20:03
🙂 lovely post. Not only nice to hear about how much fun you’re both having, but also makes me feel more relaxed about when I have children! I am much like you used to be, reserved, worried about making a mess, etc, etc, so it’s nice to know that there is hope for me yet!
Mar 17, 2010 @ 21:37:45
There is hope don’t worry. Although I still get moments when I think No don’t do that but you get over it. So don’t worry.
Thanks for reading my blog x