Bedtime Mayhem!

Last night was a difficult night. We spent nearly an hour and a half trying to get Baba to sleep, and it was very traumatic and very tiring. We were both exhausted by the end of it.

Let me start at the beginning.

Baba used to be great at bedtime, we would give him a bath and his milk, put him in his cot, say goodnight and that was it. Baba would then go to sleep and wouldn’t wake up until the next morning. He had been doing this from about 4/5 months. Perfect!

We knew we were lucky. Then it all went wrong!

Baba was ill!

We had to go back sleeping in his room. His temperature was all over the place, and he was needing medicine throughout the night. He was sick quite a lot at night-time and we didn’t want to leave him. One of us was going up to bed the same time as him, as we were so concerned about leaving him on his own.

In hindsight, it was a bad mistake! But at the time we were worried we had a poorly boy, and I still think we did the right thing as twice in the middle of the night we were rushing into hospital with Baba. If we hadn’t been in his room we may not have realised so quickly that he was so poorly so I would still do it again.

However we are now dealing with the repercussions of doing this with him.

When Baba was better we made his cot into a bed. The first night we laid on the chair bed that is next to his bed to help him sleep. For the first few nights one of us ended up having to sleep next to him on the chair bed, as he kept falling out of bed. We gradually stopped staying in the room with him, but we have not been able to break the fact that we lay on the chair bed next to him until we go to sleep.

We have gradually been standing further and further away from him in the room and been standing with our back to him, waiting for him to go to sleep this way. This has worked over the last few nights. So last night we decided, we would put him to bed and walk out of the room.

Baba was not conforming to this idea. He screamed, we decided to leave him for a bit, and he screamed some more. We went in comforted him, put him back to bed and gave him a kiss and left the room. More screaming.

This carried on for an hour nearly an hour and a half, Baba screaming, us calming him down, us leaving the room, Baba screaming. He was not going to give in. I was not going to give in. I worry about this lack of giving in, on both our parts as this may be a disastrous combination when he is older! Mr L would have given in. I ended up sending him downstairs as he was willing to go and lay down next to Baba to calm him down and get him to sleep. So he was in a strop as I sent him away.

By 10pm I was nearing the end of my tether and was thinking to myself that if he wasn’t asleep by half past I would have to go in and lay with him.

Then a miracle happened, it went quiet. Baba was quiet for a few minutes, and then the sweet sound of his snoring came out of his room. He doesn’t snore that loud I was right by the door!

I went to check on him at 10.15pm and he was fast asleep in his bed, upside down, bottom in the air and head nearly hanging out of the bed. But he was asleep.

I had won the battle. Baba was asleep all by himself in his big boy bed, on his own.

He stayed there until 7.30am!

So now I need to see whether he is going to do the same tonight! I hope that we have at last broken the mould and started him back into a good routine. Wish me luck, I will keep you posted!

8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Paula
    Apr 03, 2010 @ 15:37:02

    Oh I remember those days, well nights….just hideous. None of my 3 were terribly good sleepers, I tried controlled crying but gave up with it, I just didn’t have the willpower.

    Now, they all sleep well, although most night someone will come in at some point for a snuggle with us. We generally comfort and put them back.

    The early days are the toughest, no way of knowing what’s doing through their little heads and the constant guilt that you’re doing something wrong. It sounds like you’ve made a breakthrough and I hope it means some peaceful nights for you. Good luck x


  2. Lauren cole
    Apr 03, 2010 @ 17:16:00

    I went ‘cold turkey’ with our son when he was 19 months old. He screamed for a couple of night but then gave up…so it really does work eventually.

    Also he goes to be with a toy (a car or something) so if he isnt quite ready to fall asleep, he has something to play with. This has made bedtime a treat – rarely hear a peep out of him once he has gone to bed…(other than his habit of waking in the night, but that doesn’t count!)


  3. The Moiderer
    Apr 03, 2010 @ 18:46:32

    I think it will get better and better until there is no crying. Not sure how long it will take but it will work – you are doing the right thing. We had similar challenges with the little one – not sure at what age – but when she was in her cot. She wanted me there while she went to sleep and at first I pandered until it got stupid – creeping out the room and waking her up again! We went cold turkey and sorted it. We are doing all the same thing again now cos she is 20 months and in a bed (we took the cot sides off at 18 months). She is very excited at bedtime and can reach the door handle to keeps trying to escape. So she’s gone from going to be brilliantly to a nightmare again!


    • andthenallithoughtaboutwasyou
      Apr 04, 2010 @ 10:14:17

      That is exacetly the same as Baba, we went cold turkey with him in his cot and it took a couple of nights but he did get better. Then once he was better we took of his cot sides and put him into bed and he has now become a nightmare again. But I am sure it will get better it is just hard having to listen to them though isn’t it. It will be fine!


  4. Hayley
    Apr 03, 2010 @ 20:15:25

    WELL DONE! Your better than me! We have similar problems, their a whole blog post in themselves but it sounds like your on the right track! Hope your pleased 😀


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